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The bathroom
is the sterilization area...
We learn to
think creatively. The bathroom is also the sterilization area.
Baby's drinking water is boiled in the kettle provided by the
hotel and stored in the room's ice bucket. Alongside our shampoos
and soaps sits a
row of newly cleaned baby bottles and nipples. My daughter warms
the food by sitting it in the hand basin filled with hot water.
When we, adults, get hungry
we snack on 'Cup of Soup' or pizza with Chinese toppings washed
down with Tsing Tao beer from the Pizza Hut next door. There is
no table top free of diapers, toys and pacifiers -- we sit cross-legged
on the hotel room floor.
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Baby stops her hunger strike...
Little
by little Baby Lotus begins to trust us and starts to give up
some of her secrets. We learn that she won't touch the Western
scrambled eggs on the breakfast buffet but loves Chinese-style
steamed eggs. My daughter and I beg our waitress to summon the
hotel chef so he can see with his own eyes how he has thwarted
our 'little Gandhi's' hunger strike. The amused man not only makes
his appearance but teaches us the secrets behind this simple dish
the baby loves -- mix eggs and water and steam over boiling water
for ten minutes until the mixture hardens. Sprinkle with a few
drops of soy sauce and serve. I vow to cook this specialty for
Lotus on her first sleepover with Grandma.
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Shoppers gather around me...
Leslie stays
behind at the hotel with Lotus while I make my way through teeming
streets to the Chinese grocery store. My plan is to observe what
Chinese mothers are buying to feed their babies and to bring some
of that home for Lotus. I enter. There isn't another foreigner
in sight and after several attempts at communication I surmise
that not a soul speaks English. Approaching a female employee
that looks relatively kind, I take a deep breath and begin my
grandmotherly pantomime. Step One -- cradling an imaginary baby
in my arms, I rock her back and forth. Shoppers around me stop
what t hey
are doing and stare in wonderment at this possibly deranged grayed-hair
woman. I persist with Step Two -- holding a pretend spoon in one
hand and bowl in the other, I begin eating. A crowd starts to
form. I am undaunted. My granddaughter is hungry and I am going
to bring home food. The clerk seems to understand. She beckons,
I follow through the aisles and there lies the answer -- rows
of Nestles powdered formula and jars of Heinz baby food -- each
with an additional Chinese label pasted to the product, each three
times the price I'd pay for the same thing in a Toronto supermarket.
I stock up on spaghetti with noodles, tangy applesauce and mashed
yams planning to convince Lotus that this is what all other babies
in China eat.
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Twenty-two hours in transit...
Just
as our little family unit settles into somewhat of an unorthodox
routine, our two-week stay in China draws to a close. Mixed emotions
abound. We can't wait to reunite with family and friends but twenty-two
hours in transit with a baby in tow is daunting even for the bravest
travelling woman. Leslie and I stay up late devising our battle
plan. We stuff two carry-on bags with survival gear -- diapers,
toys, towelettes, pacifiers, bottles, formula, baby food, spoons,
lots of chocolate bars (to keep our energy up), storybooks, bibs,
pajamas (to convince Lotus its sleeping time) an extra set of
new baby clothes designed to dazzle those waiting at the airport,
snowsuit, baby blanket and a few more chocolate bars because we
know we are desperately going to need them.
Things go exactly as we expect
them to go on the plane. Lotus cries, Lotus, eats, Lotus cries,
Lotus sleeps and my daughter and I devour chocolate bars. We take
turns catnapping while the other holds the baby. I learn that
no matter how tired a grandmother or a mother is she will not
allow herself to sleep if she is holding her precious little bundle.
We arrive in Toronto twenty-two hours later, two semi-conscious
bedraggled caregivers and one beautifully rested baby. Lotus dazzles
our welcoming committee.
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Life goes on...
We're
settled in now -- Leslie and Lotus in their flat and I in mine.
Life goes on and our newest little family member is making wonderful
progress. She's sleeping through the night, her bronchial infection
has cleared completely and she has discovered the wonders of
animal cookies, chocolate ice cream and salty potato chips.
When I stop by to visit she squeals with delight. That makes
me believe she doesn't recall the antibiotic incident but remembers
me kindly as the nice lady that brought home the tart apple
sauce with the Chinese labels.
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