A classroom of young men...

"I'm an annoying Italian man, please just ignore me," were the words I planned to teach my English language class made up solely of young men from the Naples area. Since the day I had arrived, I had seen such men in action. "Where are you from?" "Where are you going?" "Do you need some company?" were the phrases they recited by heart as they followed foreign women through the streets.

In the classroom, they were attentive, polite students, eager to learn. "Why do you feel English is important?" I asked. Receiving a unanimous response involving the seduction of foreign women, I realized that English wasn't the only thing they needed to learn; they needed to be brought up to date on the workings of the female mind.

Only interested in chasing women...

After four years of language study at university and two years of TESL training, I felt ready to do some serious teaching. At a small private school in Sorrento, forty kilometers south of Naples, I planned to put my expertise to the test. The key to successful language teaching is using topics of interest to your students. My students were only interested in chasing women. (Great. The possibilities for field trips are endless!)

Unfortunately (or fortunately), I wasn't able to delve into this subject in the classroom since the school's method of teaching didn't allow for much conversation or creative interaction. The thirty-five year old system involved asking questions from a yellowed book with a broken spine in order to elicit grammatically correct answers from the students. Bo-r-r-ring!

It's all a big game...

Outside the classroom, I inquired informally about the hard sell pick-up method. I explained that, in North America, a woman who is followed relentlessly and badgered by incessant questions (grammatically correct or not) is unlikely to warm to the perpetrator. I was told that, although a southern Italian expects an initial negative response, he believes that persistence is the key. And the fact that he rarely gives up easily must be an indication of some rate of success.

In fact, there is an Italian comedy sketch where a man approaches a woman alone on a beach and asks if she would like some company. When she answers "yes," he doesn't know what to do. It's all a big game.

No solo sunbathing...

If you're a woman who wants to be alone on a beach in southern Italy, you can forget it. You may find a few initial moments of peace, but then you will sense a presence just behind you. It will move in to your left or right and sit down at a distance that says, "I'm in your space--you have to notice me." After a period of anywhere from 30 seconds to two minutes, he will speak--whether eye contact has been made or not. I became adept at judging the situation and would either chat (if his language was good and I could learn some Italian), or move away and hope not to be followed.

She finds love and learning...

The good news is, not all Italian men are annoying. I met my Neapolitan boyfriend at the beach, but it was only through mutual friends that we dared to speak to each other. He wouldn't have approached me, for fear that I would walk away, and my conservative North American background combined with a good dose of solo female traveller defensiveness would never have allowed me to approach him. (Don't cultural differences just make a relationship fascinating?)

Although I taught English in Sorrento for five months, it was I who really did the learning. The male-female relationship is only one of the many intriguing aspects of a cross-cultural experience. There's also the role of the family, the woman/mother, politics and economics, to name a few. But those are other stories...

Our readers are writers, too...

Love Italy? Here are a few book titles that will be fun for you to investigate. Each is about Italy, each is lovely and passionate about its subject and each is written by a woman who is part of the Journeywoman Network. It's my pleasure to introduce these women and their work to all of you.

My Father Came From Italy -- written by Maria Colletta McLean (ISBN 1-55192-356-4)
A joyous and poignant memoir of an immigrant's homecoming. This book tells Maria Colletta McLean's intimate story of her disheartened father's return to his Italian village -- 64 years after he left it for a new life in Canada. Maria buys a house in the village of Supino (sight unseen) as a means of reigniting her father's memory of his youth. Publisher: http://www.raincoast.com

Italy Fever -- 14 Ways to Satisfy Your Love Affair With Italy -- written by Darlene Marwitz (ISBN 0-9664998-2-4)
This book is both a memoir and a pre-travel companion. Darlene first travelled to Italy as a graduate student in architecture. Now more than 10 years later, the author renews her post-forty spirit by following a passion and indulging in engaging ways to feed her Italy fever. Read more at her website http://www.italyfever.com

Hello Italy! -- an Insider's Guide to Italian Hotels $50-$99 a Night for Two -- written by Margo Classe (ISBN 0-9653944-6-8)
So you're going to Italy? You know the food and wine will be terrific. But what about your accommodations? Journeywoman Margo Classe has come up with the answers for cost conscious travelers. 'Hello Italy!' lists hotels in 26 Italian cities that are excellent value, then she adds information on what to pack, how to use the telephone, as well as a list of useful Italian phrases, pronunciations and definitions. P.S. This savvy author personally visits each hotel herself and inspects them for cleanliness, safety, location, and friendliness. With 'Hello Italy!' you are definitely getting a money-saving, female-centered point of view. Visit: http://www.helloeurope.com for further information.

(Source: Evelyn Hannon, Journeywoman Editor)