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Travel for three or more...
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Two is cheaper than three
Actually, I often travel with two other ladies. I guess that makes
this travel for three! Our adventures began in 2003, when we enrolled
in a three week study abroad trip to Greece. Being nearly twice
the age of our other travel mates, we choose to share a room.
We were referred to by our professor and our new Greek friends
as 'the ladies. Our one rule was that we would let each other
know if we needed some 'alone' time. Each of us, during the three
week trip, carved out some 'alone' time and it worked quite well
for us. We hardly knew each other at the beginning of the trip,
but became great friends in the course of three weeks. We have
continued to travel together and have a never ending list of places
we'd like to explore. Once we've decided where we'd like to go,
we each buy different travel guides to research our destination.
We have a system where each of us comes up with a list of the
top five things we'd like to see or do. That allows us to do some
advance planning. We are currently planning our 4th annual trip
together. I highly recommend travel for three. It's economical
and you can take off and do something by yourself without feeling
like you're deserting your travel partner. Plus it's triple the
fun!
Jeanie, Radford, USA
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Match your travel style
Several ways that I have traveled successfully with two or more
include: If you don’t know the person very well find out
their travel style. Do they like to see and do as much as possible,
or do they like to get to a place and settle down for awhile?
I think this difference in travel styles can make or break a vacation.
Sharon, New York City, USA
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Learn from your travel pals
When I travel with a friend or two we divide the time and take
turns being the guide for the day.We each lead the others and
do the thing that we most wanted from the trip. For example, on
a trip to Crete, one day I led the group to the Palace of Knossos
and the Archeological Museum, another day my niece took us to
the beach and out for local food, and a third day my boyfriend
took us for a drive over the mountains. I find that i enjoy following
others to do things I wouldn't have thought to do and still get
to have plenty of time to focus on my most important destination
too.
Cynthia, Massachusetts, USA
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Negotiate your differences
The most important thing is to voice each others assumptions at
the planning stages and negotiate the differences. Such things
as taxi or public transport, meal times and time alone seem essentials
to discuss. A niece of mine travelled in a threesome and each
place they stopped they rotated around a twin and a single room.
So they knew they would have a room to themselves each third stop.
Grace, Sydney, Australia
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Share and compare ideas
Sometimes my friends and I just like to do different things on
a given day when we are travelling together. If we have ideas
on what to do or where to go for the next day, we share and compare
beforehand. If we are interested in the other person's idea, we
join up, otherwise we arrange to meet somewhere later at a set
time. That way we can still do what we each want to do, and then
join up later to share our separate experiences.
Sherry, Dijon, France
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Don't
be a bunch of grapes!
We often travel in tandem with my husband's extended family. On
an early trip my father-in-law taught us that 'we don't have to
hang around like a bunch of grapes'. I find the philosophy comes
in handy when travelling with only one other person as well. A
little independence does wonders for a travel-buddy relationship.
Sometimes, if we're not in a city, we even rent two cars. We each
go our separate ways for an afternoon and meet up later with exciting
stories to tell.
Joni, Toronto, Canada
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Be in charge for the day
When traveling with one or more people, it helps if each person
takes a day for accepting responsibility. During this period of
time, they are responsible for planning everything (including
meals) - even if it is deciding that group will rest and do nothing.
It helps ease the 'complaining' aspect, since you would prefer
that the others not complain about what you choose on your day.
It shares the responsibility of the holiday, and if each/several
of you plan the same thing, well done - go back - and enjoy it
again.
Amelia, Los Angeles, USA
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Do what you must do
I don't travel very often with friends but when I do it can be
scary. I really enjoy being the leader of the pack but that does
not always work. A small tip that my best friend and I share in
our travel-making decisions is 'attachment.' We share how 'attached'
we are to pursuing a certain activity. If someone is VERY attached
then we usually do it. But if we are not so attached, the subject
remains up for discussion. It helps us communitcate better without
getting into disagreements. I hope this tip helps other women.
Jamie, Yuki, Japan
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How is everybody doing?
Periodically have an evening check-in. How is everyone in your
group doing? What problems are arising? What is working or not
working? If this is done routinely every three or four days (or
when someone needs it), it is a good time for people to talk about
what’s bugging them and it prevents resentments or building
frustrations
Sharon, New York City, USA
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