I use a book light
I like to stay up late reading but my travel partner
likes to close the light early. Once I learned this,
I bought myself a tiny book light that shines only
on my reading material and now we're both happy.
Alison, Boston, USA
I use a sleep mask
My best friend is a night owl and a late riser. We
find a sleep mask (my favorite is silk) and earplugs
can be invaluable. Also, do not feel like you have
to do everything together if you have different interests.
Take a good book and allow some times apart. P.S.
I love the concept of your newsletter. It gives us
travel lovers more boldness to go it alone or with
a female friend. Be blessed!
Nan, Jacksonville, Florida
Together and apart
My partner and I studied up on our Paris destination
and put together a flexible itinerary before we left.
That way, we were able to make sure that sights important
to each of us would be included. We built in unscheduled
time for new discoveries, and we took one day to go
our own separate ways. It was fun sharing our independent
adventures over dinner that evening!
Elizabeth, Rochester, USA
On holidays, my mom and I take turns finding a restaurant
for dinner. We make it a surprise. The other person
has no idea where we'll be eating until she gets there.
Just a bit of fun!
Debra, Manitoba, Canada
Don't embarass or endanger your travel pal. Know when
to wear long sleeves, cover your head, etc. People
are judged by the company they keep and your partner
will be harassed along with you if you (for example)
wear short shorts and tank top in India.
Tara, Delhi, India
Share food specialties
A favorite part of our travels is the amazing local
foods. So we can enjoy as many taste experiences as
possible in one meal, my travel pal selects one course
that appeals to her, and I choose another that I like.
We share both, enjoy each other's selections, don't
overeat (though we often find room for a dessert)
and save money as well.
Claire, Black Rock, Australia
A little gift is lovely
My college pal and I continue to travel with each
other at least once a year. At the end of our holiday
we always give each other a tiny gift that is made
locally. It's a souvenir of the time we spent together.
Great minds think alike. One year we each bought the
same thing -- a bar of lavender hand soap in France.
Spend your time not hers
Remember you are on holiday to see the sights and
smell the smells not to be looking for internet cafes
to keep in touch with loved ones whilst your friend
is thinking she should have travelled alone. Organise
before hand as to when is the best time for both of
you to do things separately.
Sue, Davis, USA
is in charge this year?
My high school friend and I still travel together.
We alternate every year about who decides where to
go. Once it is decided, the person choosing picks
spots of interest to her, while the other person takes
care of all the arrangements like the reservations
etc. The only rules are no complaining about the choices,
be it an attraction or the hotel, and it must be affordable
to both parties. It works well for us and we have
both been surprised at times about the choices the
other has made. It keeps our friendship solid with
fresh perspectives on one another.
Lisa, Hardy, USA
Do it for her
My sister and I frequently travel internationally
together, typically on indepedent trips rather than
packaged tours. We each make a list of the things
we are most interested in doing at our destination;
then we compare our lists. If one of us sees that
the other has her heart set on an activity, the other
will find an activity that she is willing to drop.
We both have a blast!
Wendy, Northern Virginia, USA
Be sure to book properly
When you're responsible for making international hotel
room reservations, be sure you are familiar with the
terminology of the sleeping arrangements/room types.
Double, twin, matrimonial, may mean different things
in different countries. So if you want your own bed,
you better know the terminology!
Deb, St. Louis, USA
Don't take more than a small suitcase on wheels. That
allows you to move quickly. It's not fun travelling
with a friend who insists on taking all of her personal
possessions with her. Eventually, you end up carrying
some of her excess stuff and that will not make you
happy with her.
Sue, Davis, USA
Be very sensitive to your companion's fatigue level
- and your own. Tired people become grouchy, and that
can spell trouble! Suggest a break as soon as you
sense that you or your companion is wearing out. Sometimes
all it takes is 15 minutes with a cup of tea to put
a spring back in your step.
Sue, St. Paul, U.S.A.
Eating schedules are different
When two people travel together, they may have two
different time clocks for eating. I take along a food
bar with protein, to hold me because my traveling
partner usually likes to eat later than I can manage
that low sugar drop.
Linda, Slippery Rock, USA