He hates to pick restaurants
My husband and I have it all worked out – he
hates to make reservations and pick restaurants, I
hate to drive. I take care of the reservations and
restaurants, he drives (I sleep and arrive refreshed
in time to check us in), and we’re both happy!
Jeannie, Dover, USA
Take turns deciding
When my husband and I are exploring a new city by
walking, we take turns at each street corner deciding
which direction to go. That way we aren't forever
having to consult each other.
Marilyn, Portland, USA
When taking a road trip with a husband or friend and
sharing driving duties, the passenger vows not to
'backseat drive' unless a truly dangerous situation
occurs that the driver appears to be totally oblivious
to. And the driver vows not to second-guess the navigator
without a truly valid reason.
Ellen, California, USA
Planning stage is important
Here's my suggestions for making travel with a partner
more joyous. Happy travel begins in the planning stages
- before each trip, my husband and I independently
list our top three 'must do' sites or experiences
plus a few extra 'maybe' stops. These sites form the
basis of the trip itself and both of our interests
are accommodated. Often times, we have at least one
stop on both our lists.
Vanessa, Halifax, Canada
One couple, one journal
Travel journals are always a good idea but even better
when both travellers record their experiences, feelings
and anecdotes in the same journal. Looking back on
past trips, it's always intriguing to see how each
of us perceived the same sites in different ways.
Happy travels and keep up the good work!
Vanessa, Halifax, Canada
Exchange email games
I often travel with strangers - travel buddies with
like destination goals whom I hook up with through
travel sites. Since these are women I have never met,
we exchange lots of emails prior to a trip to get
to know one another as much as possible. But it really
is difficult to guess what may annoy your travel pal,
and not knowing means that you may inadvertently do
exactly those annoying things that you are so used
to doing without a clue as to how it may infringe
on another's peace of mind or comfort.
One sort of game I incorporate into our email exchanges
is called 'My Travel Pet Peeves / My Travel Pet Comforts'
in which we each list five things that annoy us most
when traveling with a travel chum, along with a possible
solution for each annoyance. We then list five things
we love most about traveling with a travel chum. This
pre-trip exchange really helps me to plan around the
things that most annoy my travel buddy (like packing
ear plugs if I like to go to bed early & she is
a night owl). This game also gives me the comfort
of knowing that my travel buddy will also be doing
Sylver, Morris County, USA
Talk about your allergies
With organized group travel, be sure to inform those
at the tour company about your personal preferences
for a travel partner. I have lots of allergies and
always ask in advance if my roommate will be using
hairspray, perfumes etc. If they plan to use them,
I request another roommie.
Melody, San Francisco, USA
Create a signal word.
I've gone on several trips with women I didn't know
well when we started. I've learned that some conflict
will always come up and it can get tense. I now talk
with my traveling companion ahead of time and we agree
on a signal word (something goofy, like "swordfish").
When we're traveling and one of us feels like conflict
is beginning to get uncomfortable we exclaim "Swordfish"
and that's our cue to stop action, take a deep breath,
and talk. Believe it or not, it works.
Naomi, Massachusetts, USA
I'm an Australian who recently went on a road trip
in the USA with a friend from Canada. We met for the
first time on that trip though we'd been friends for
a few years via e-mail and regular post. We learnt
a number of new things about each other, but the two
that stick in my mind were (1) I drink a lot of peppermint
tea and she is allergic to it, and (2) We were both
driving in unfamiliar territory and she is very nervous
about driving. We solved these problems by my packing
away my tea at the very bottom of my bag and drinking
green tea for the duration and, after one very nerve-racking
attempt at driving, I did all the driving and she
did the map-reading, keeping me on the right side
of the road, and organising accommodation. It worked
out very well and we enjoyed a wonderful time whizzing
around New Mexico and Colorado.
Tes, Melbourne, Australia
Morning rhythms are different
I know that morning rhythms are different for different
people. When rooming with other women on a trip it
never takes me long to get ready in the morning. So
I just get up first, quickly get ready, and then let
my roommate know that I'll go up to the restaurant
to have breakfast with the others. This gives the
other person privacy, plus, I don't have to just sit
there waiting for her. We meet up when she is ready
and comes for breakfast.
Brenda, Hebron, USA
We share our skills
I have travelled and shared a room with a friend from
a nearby city on three hiking trips. We met on a walking
trip to Bermuda in 2000 and have been friends ever
since. We are a good fit for a couple of reasons.
I am usually more together in the morning so it is
my job to make sure we have our room key, that we
don't leave our hiking sticks behind when we stop
to buy water or food for lunch, etc. etc. She is more
adventurous than I am, maybe because she had the opportunity
to backpack around the world in her younger years.
So she often gets me to do things that I would not
attempt on my own. Sometimes we get nervous when we
are about to embark on a trip; we can acknowledge
this in ourselves. In fact, we call ourselves "Nervous
Nellie 1" and "Nervous Nellie 2"; that
is the code word to share our anxieties and we have
a laugh over it. P.S. I look forward to many more
adventures with my pal, as long as our hips and knees
hold out! (we are in our 60s)
Linda, Toronto, Canada
Look for someone with similar habits
I have the best travel partner. My travel buddy and
I met 20+ years ago at a Club Med. She is a very early
morning person and I am more of a late night person.
She gets up at 5:30 or 6 am and makes coffee and reads.
That is her quiet time. My time is in the evening
and I will read with my glass of wine after she goes
to bed. We are both very easy going, so if one of
us wants to do something, the other one says fine.
We will do it. We have similar eating habits and shopping
habits, so we get along well.
Lynn, California, USA
When I was widowed
I found a travel friend after my husband died. When
I was widowed I thought my traveling days were over
as a two-some. Luckily I found another woman in my
bereavement group -- five children each and lots of
grandchildren. Both still working because we enjoy
people. We have visited a lot of places together and
sharing a room has not been a problem cause we show
respect for each others space and private time. We've
gone to Ireland, Hawaii, China, Las Vegas and other
fun places. I've been so lucky to have found a travel
friend. P.S. Thanks for Journeywoman.
Betty, Palm Desert, USA
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