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It's not personal
My tip for two is don't take anything personally and ensure you
express what you would like from each day or experience. Sometimes
others will be happy to join and sometimes not. Cest la vie!
Maria, Sydney Australia
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Trade cameras
My friends and I also will trade cameras for a day. That way we
make sure we are in our own set of pictures and we see how others
view our trip through our own lens.
Linda, Langley, Canada
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Alone and together
When I travel I like to spend some time alone just wandering,
but I also like the feeling of being together. So the compromise
is, splitting up for a morning and/or afternoon and then meeting
up for lunch and dinner. We will always have so much more adventures
to relate!
Fredi, Jerusalem, USA
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Respect
your partner
I have found that you need to give and respect each other's need
to have their own time. Last year in Korea, my partner took some
time to just walk around the city on her own, while I stayed home
and read a good book. She also likes afternoon naps, so we would
try and visit places in the afternoon that would accommodate this,
eg, the beach, a park, a buddhist retreat in the mountains, or
a return bus trip. It's comforting to know that you don't always
have to be attached at the hip when you travel -- that you are
not offending your partner if you want to go off alone.
Nancy, British Columbia, Canada
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Try what she likes
This is what I have learned about travelling with a companion.
You should be interested in some of the same things your travel
partner is interested in because you are travelling with a companion
to share experiences. That's what makes it fun. One the other
hand, opportunities to peruse your own personal interests should
also be included in your trip agenda.
Wendy, Mission, Canada
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Take turns planning
One of the easiest ways we've found to travel amicably is to take
turns planning the day. It's that simple: one day I choose what
we're going to do and where we're going to eat and the next day
my traveling companion makes the decisions. Sometimes if it's
something only one of us is truly interested in doing and the
other would be bored to tears, we avoid the tears by having a
free day in which my companion does what he/she desires and so
do I - a little mini vacation within the vacation.
Maria, Toronto, Canada
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Someone is stronger
There's always one stronger personality in the group. Before departure
have each person make a list of what they really want to see/do
while on the trip. This way the stronger personality doesn't get
to monopolize the trip with her desires as it is clear at the
beginning what the other person wants.
Shelly, Castlegar, Canada
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Share responsibility for decisions
I travel each year with my sister for three weeks on a biking
or walking holiday which we plan and execute ourselves with the
help of library guide books and internet searches. Over the eight
trips we have taken, we have learned the best travel tip is to
agree to share the responsibility for all decisions. If we get
lost, we are lost together. If the accommodation is less than
desireable, we have chosen it together. If we have a fabulous
moment, we share it together knowing we are both responsible for
our decisions.
Katherine, Burnaby, Canada
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If your dream person appears
Decide before your trip what will happen to the other if the person
of your dreams appears when you are both out for the evening.
There is nothing worse than to find yourself walking back to your
accomodation alone wondering if your friend will be ok. Also,
always have a contingency plan if you and your friend become separated
while out sightseeing with each other.
Susan, California, USA
Ed. note: Shame
on your friend if she leaves you alone. Besides, she is taking
a huge chance going off in the evening with a total stranger.
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Sisters work out conflict
I like to travel with my sisters, but you can imagine the conflicts
that could arise with old family relationships creeping into the
decision making. We don't usually have trouble picking a place,
once picked, we all write down what we most want to do in priority
order. We then try to work out an itinerary that covers at least
the most important priorities for each traveler. The vacations
are richer and we get to stay together.
Chris, North Carolina, USA
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It's all about rhythms
Travel companions need to know and adjust to each others rhythms
or to enjoy going out alone sometimes. As I like to get up early
and to see tourist sites and markets at their best, and cannot
manage to sleep in the afternoon I am tired when nightlife is
beginning. On the other hand travel companions should lead each
other into new experiences.
Penny, London, England
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Separate for a time
If you are having a stressful time traveling together (and who
doesn't?), take a break. Don't be joined at the hips. Go your
separate ways for a few hours, a day, even a few days and then
rendezvous. You will be amazed at how happy you are to get back
together. You will have travel adventures and photos to share
and hopefully will appreciate each other's company for the rest
of the trip.
Katlin, Vancouver, USA
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Are you strongest in AM?
Discuss which part of the day you feel strongest. My girlfriend
and I have travelled together three or four times now. One of the
things that works for us is that we know which time of the day we
are at our best. When we drive, my friend drives in the morning
because she is more awake than me! I drive in the afternoon and
she has a little nap at this time. It helps if you are both either
morning people or not morning people. We are not morning people,
so that is a plus for both of us. We both need to stop not long
after we get on the road for that extra cup of coffee to get us
in gear.
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